Friday Philosophy…Matriarchy

You had to know this was coming. Ages ago, I did a post on Patriarchy. It only makes sense that there be a corresponding post, especially with all of the #nastywoman trends going on this week.

“The opposite of patriarchy is not matriarchy but fraternity, yet I think it’s women who are going to have to break this spiral of power and find the trick of cooperation.” ~ Germaine Greer

“Society values cooperation over independence, obedience over individuality, and niceness above all else.” ~ Sue Grafton

“A people is not defeated until the hearts of its women are on the ground.” ~ Cheyenne proverb

“I believe that the souls of women flatten and anchor themselves in times of adversity, lay in for the stay. I’ve heard that when elephants are attacked they often run, not away, but towards each other. Perhaps it is because they are a matriarchal society.” ~ Elizabeth Berg

“I feel truth, beauty, love, grief, anger, intimacy & alive in my body… Women in the global south live in their bodies much more than we in the global north. Not as distracted by patriarchy’s controlling images – They know power is in their bodies. I am deeply grateful for the women who showed me the way home.” ~ Jodie Evans

“The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn.” ~ Gloria Steinem

Searching for quotes on matriarchy leads to a surprisingly large number of websites arguing that there is no such thing. Strangely, the ones I stumbled upon didn’t have women authors. Hmmmm. 😉

Blessings to you all. I’ll be racing up a mountain at dawn, so fast sleep awaits.

Do Not Wake the Day…#WWWBlogs

Do not wake the day
We trace our sacred geometry
Beyond the planes

Breathing beneath water
As worlds drift overhead
The compass turns
To its own dance
A star tumbling through time
Without any North –
True or otherwise

We hide:
Primordial creatures
Slicking our skin in mud
Burrowing ever deeper
A subterranean womb
To nourish our dreams
Bring us to strength

Until we once again stand
We rise
Animal and goddess
one being
wearing a mask
for our truth
is danger

Caroline A. Slee, October 19, 2016

Two Weeks…#MondayBlogs

We are down to the vacation time length before #thisis40. My birthday present arrived early. Since I’m turning 40, it seemed like a good time to ask for a bike. 🙂 We’ve already been pedaling around town a little, since it’s cooling off. This is the time of year we all become grateful for our desert weather (after the four solid months of heat-related complaints).

My dad posted a blog today, over on his site. He’s usually very much “all business” about his posts, and, although he talks about business (and the reason for my frantic busy-ness) he delves into the personal as well. That’s a big deal for him, as this format still feels a little bit foreign. I’m a tech bully, though, and he’s really getting the hang of things. 🙂

Today, I emerged from my writing cocoon. I’m not sure if I’m a butterfly yet, but I’m some sort of flying…thing. My writing has been predominantly curriculum over the past several months, and today I was able to dip a toe back into the magical land of fiction. I’m hoping to lose myself in that same land for a full hour tomorrow. I’ve missed writing, sort of in a phantom limb kind of way. Something of myself felt as though it had disappeared, even though I was busting my butt on words each day.

They were not my words, you see.

Back to storytelling and dreams on the page. Weaving a plot and casting a spell. Hunting down supernatural villains a la Buffy the Vampire Slayer, and kicking some a**.

We wander off the path sometimes, and find purpose and work that builds upon our gifts as writers. We must always return to our own tales.

It’s time to begin again.

The story is waiting.

Friday Philosophy…Outliers

I guess, instead of using the very sedate term “outliers,” I could use my daughter’s “freak of nature” enthusiasm when it comes to athletes who are outliers. 🙂 Still, that sounds sort of like an insult, so I’d prefer not to use anything that sounds like a denigration.

Those individuals who seem to stand apart from the crowd when it comes to their craft, or sport, or interest are outliers. Although Malcolm Gladwell made the concept interesting, and offered us a sense of how it works, there are other aspects well beyond control or aspects we don’t consider.

How many of us grew up hearing that the most important thing was to be well-rounded? We were supposed to get the grades, the athletics, the arts, and the all-important amazing essay to make sure the “right” universities would accept us. That’s without the standardized tests, of course.

In our professional lives, we are expected to over-perform, every day.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with either of the above. The only problem with the first is that most of us have a handful of things in life that we do exceptionally well, and we really ought to nurture those things. The second can best be summarized in a quote from (I think) Terry Braverman: “When you give 110% every day, after 10 days, what is left? One LESS of YOU!”

We have to choose. We just want to keep the options broad as long as possible.

So, at long last haha, some thoughts from outliers.

“If you want to be the best, you have to do things that other people aren’t willing to do.” ~ Michael Phelps

“Dwelling in positivity is a choice and a developed skill, and has the power to make all the difference.” ~ Lauren Fleshman

“Love and magic have a great deal in common. They enrich the soul, delight the heart. And they both take practice.” ~ Nora Roberts

“To handle a language skillfully is to practice a kind of evocative sorcery.” ~ Charles Baudelaire

“Great thoughts reduced to practice become great acts.” ~ William Hazlitt

Be exceptional: your unique brand of exceptional, reserved for only you.

Blessings to you all!


They call it wisdom
An endless thread
Extending outward

Drops from the moon
Goddess glow
An intuition

The gift of tears
Healing through pain
A balm

Life measured
In pearls
A jeweled strand
Of blessings…

Caroline A. Slee
October 11, 2016

Loving the Lows…#MondayBlogs

21 days until my #thisis40 moment. 🙂

Today, I’m thinking about our love story.

Lara and I knew each other back in high school. We had mutual friends in common (as happens in a smallish high school), and so were familiar to each other. We didn’t reconnect until I had already been given my cancer diagnosis.

I often refer to that time as, “Love in the time of cancer,” or “Love in the time of chemo.” Somehow, during the MOST un-sexy time of my life, we managed to fall in love with each other. We did it all backwards and cockeyed, really. Usually, couples have quite a few years under their couply belt before the cancer diagnosis shows up. We started with the cancer diagnosis, and then started dating after chemo.

There was no chance to put my best (read: makeup and hair and clothes) foot forward in the traditional dynamic, wherein we treat a potential new relationship as some sort of bizarre job interview.

Beautifully, at what would have been my lowest point, I was given the most amazing gift, and so were my children. Yes, I had people jumping ship on me. Yes, this was a difficult time. Still, if you knew that what waited for you on the other side of disaster was love and health and joy, wouldn’t the suffering be worth it?

I don’t have to worry about my Tumour Raider freaking out in times of crisis – she’s a rock during the lows, and a rock during the highs and all the rest.

Someone once characterized dependability as being decidedly un-sexy, like my cancer self. I object. Knowing you are holding hands through the long haul is the sexiest and most beautiful thing in the world.

Blessings to you all. Happy Monday!

Friday Philosophy…Muscle

Since mine are loudly protesting every move I make today, this seemed an apt topic for this week’s Friday Philosophy.

“I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

“Practice puts brains in your muscles.” ~ Sam Snead 🙂

“A champion is someone who gets up when they can’t.” ~ Jack Dempsey

“Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in the muscles.” ~ Alex Karras

“If you have to fight and want to win, use the strongest muscle: Heart.” ~ Corina Abdulahm-Negura

“Opposition is a natural part of life. Just as we develop our physical muscles through overcoming opposition – such as lifting weights – we develop our character muscles by overcoming challenges and adversity.” ~ Stephen R. Covey

Build your muscles: challenge your body, give from your heart, and use your mind – do this every single day.

Blessings to you all, and never give up!